We asked a few creators about their experience in the recent weddings they attended and if they had any dos and don’ts to share for the wedding day!
Receiving an invitation to an Indian wedding is exciting since you will get to witness and be part of someone starting a new life, customs that represent their culture, happy colours, and food. Apart from having a gala time, there are a lot of things to consider during such gatherings. We all know that the wedding day in any culture is a big affair and maintaining a certain level of decency is a must but apart from that we also need to learn and unlearn some things. Something that worked a decade ago might seem a little outdated today. Earlier the bride had more restrictions when it came to choosing a wedding outfit but nowadays it’s mostly about her personal preference and taste. Same goes for the customs that might seem unethical if we continue following them, it can include notions like brides having to be sad during their bidaai ceremony or giving dowry. While these used to be norms, they mainly worked back in the day and nowadays weddings are more about having fun the way you want.
Most of the time people are forced to follow some rules just because they don’t want to get judged but it’s time we prioritise fun. We’ve all experienced moments which didn’t make sense to us. Keeping that in mind, there are many said and unsaid etiquette that guests must be aware of. We asked a few creators like Vishwa Joshi, Vrushika Mehta, Yash Lalwani, Dhwani Bhatt, Manish Kharage, and Anagha Phirke about some dos and don’ts at an Indian wedding. As these creators recently attended weddings, we are eager to know what they experienced!
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Here’s what they had to say!
“I’ve always been excited about wedding season because of all the fun, dance, and colours! I recently attended a friend’s wedding and I saw a few things like the bride’s parents washing the groom’s feet and bowing down to his parents, and as much as I believe it might carry some religious importance, I know I would not like to see my parents doing so. Respect goes both ways and I feel both families being humble and loving towards each other is more important than anyone bowing to anyone. Also, I’ve noticed that people tend to pick out all the flaws in either the decorations, the food, or the arrangements, without realising that the families have probably put in all the effort to make it the perfect wedding for the bride and groom which everyone should consider before saying anything unpleasant. I really like the haldi, mehendi, and sangeet days, they’re my favourite! Seeing food, family, and friends together under one roof, joined in to celebrate love is the best feeling.“
“I attended my friend’s wedding a few months ago and all I can remember is I couldn’t walk around in those 5-inch heels so definitely heels are a big no for me. The most important thing to do is to be comfortable so that you can have fun.“
“I attended multiple weddings in the last few months and could see a recurring thing happening in almost all of them – the bride and the groom staying hungry most of the time! They literally have to freeze in one place for hours without eating! Be it during haldi or during the reception (oh especially during receptions when thousands of people come to take pictures and don’t forget, the forceful smile that they have to put on their faces) I strongly feel that we should normalize giving the couple a few minutes break where they can grab a bite and get back to whatever they were doing. No one should be hungry during weddings. Especially the groom and the bride! One thing I’m going to make sure of when I get married – eat all the time!“
“Recently I attended a cousin’s wedding where one girl who was the sister of the bride was afraid of wearing a lehenga because of what others might say. We often find others coming to the wedding to just see what’s going wrong instead of appreciating the goods. People should enjoy the wedding rather than come with their judgments. To all the girls who feel the same as my cousin I would like to tell you, it’s not the belly fat you need to get rid of it’s the people who make you feel so. Just be confident in your skin because you’re beautiful.“
“Recently I attended a wedding where I saw this thing that didn’t make sense to me at all. I saw that the bride and the groom being more invested in getting their wedding captured in photos and videos rather than actually living in that moment and relishing every second of it. More than living their dream, the bride and the groom are more concerned about the after-movie of the wedding. And even the documentation team, they’re constantly directing everyone at the wedding to either look here or look there or do this or do that. I strongly believe that the two people getting married and the people who have come to witness that wedding should do everything in a candid manner and the photographers should do their best in capturing those real and beautiful moments that are so pure in nature, that hold the real essence of so many emotions, rather than making it seem so inorganic.
Another thing that again doesn’t make sense to me is how people perceive a wedding as an event that would symbolize their status. I’ve seen people taking loans to create a grand wedding just because people judge you by the grandness of your wedding. Grandness is absolutely fine if that is what you like and if it suits your pockets, but just for the sake of symbolizing it as your status is something that people shouldn’t do. Instead of spending the kind of money that creates debt, have a simple wedding, because even simple weddings can be very much enjoyable and as auspicious as a grand wedding. In the end, it’s all about the people, emotions, essence and purity of two people deciding to spend the rest of their lives together and of course, FOOD!“
“I have always been told that the wedding is the most important day in your life and I never believed in it until I saw my friend in that beautiful red lehenga walking down the aisle and completing her even so beautiful love story. I realised it is the celebration of love, a celebration of uniting two families and promising to stay forever together. As a bridesmaid, my job was to take care of her needs, making sure she is hydrated. After every event, we(a group of bridesmaids) used to go with her to help her get ready for the next function.
If we get a break in between I shot Reels with her to make her day a little more special. Bridesmaids come with many duties, and having a blast is one of them! so we mingle with guests and tear up the dance floor to celebrate the new Mr. and Mrs.! However, in all these celebrations, I noticed some of the things I could have done to avoid the mess like keeping lots of safety pins with me so that I could pin up my falling dupatta in the Sangeet dance performance, checking my phone battery before leaving the house so that I could have stored some special moments in my phone’s gallery, and keeping a handkerchief with me to use it in an emergency.“
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